Wednesday, March 09, 2011

The Right Time

Sunday marked one month since we said goodbye to Pablo, and I hadn't yet done anything with his ashes.

I knew where I wanted to scatter them.

I was just waiting for The Right Time.

Yesterday was a warm, humid day (26C/79F). The warmest day we've had in a month or more. It was fairly cloudy all day, but towards evening the sky cleared and there was a lovely pink sunset. The air had cooled a little too.

It was just the kind of evening that Pablo loved, particularly because it was garbage/recycling night. Pabs always escorted me as I took the garbage and recycling from the backyard to the front kerb and we spent a little quality time together outside afterwards.

So after I put Alex to bed, just as the sun was setting, I knew that it was time.

Nick said a prayer to thank God for the life of our dear Pablo. Through tears, I then scattered his ashes in his favourite hangout spots in the backyard:

Under the apple tree...

...on the grass...

...under his favourite leafy plant...

...in the daisies...

...in the pot of the lovely memorial tree that
Nick's mum Judy bought for us...


...Nick even thought to scatter a few over the neighbour's fence,
where Pabs did spend quite a bit of time!


Then I spent a bit of quiet time outside by myself in the lovely balmy garden. It wasn't hard to imagine Pabs slinking up beside me, rubbing himself against my leg.

It was most certainly The Right Time.

I'm so glad I waited.

Cheers,
--Kate

38 comments:

Katnip Lounge said...

Sleep well Pablo, amongst you favorite places, close to your Best People.
We miss you.

MoMo said...

Farewell Pabs, I am gald you are there in your favourite spots. We will meet again.

ABBY said...

Pabs is smiling and happy with those choices.
{hugs}

Kea said...

(((Kate))) We know Pablo would approve!

Peace and Blessings to you.

-Nicki, Derry and mom Kim

Daisy said...

Oh Pablo, I know that is what you would have wanted.

Eric and Flynn said...

Pabs will be happy in the places he loved best.

Mr. Hendrix said...

((hugs)) we are smiling through our tears at the thought of dear Pabs in his favorite spots. We just know he is very happy with your choices. Thank you for posting those photos for us to see. It is nice to see Pablo so happy in them.

We are very glad you waited until the right time. Grief and healing can not be rushed and the steps to get there have to be at the right time.

A kiss on the cheek to baby Alex. We are sure Pabs will check in on his sticky boy from time to time too

Huffle Mawson said...

Now Pabs can spend all his time in his favourite spots.

Random Felines said...

It is never easy, but I love that part of him lives on - even over the fence. :) sending purrs and kitty kisses

Brian said...

He is where he would love being, but in your hearts most of all. Many purrs and hugs from all of us.

Wendy said...

Your post made our mommy cry. Our mommy still has the ashes of one of our sisters, that we never got to meet. And our mommy knows that she has to say goodbye some time too. Sweet dreams, Pablo at The Rainbow Bridge.
Miss Bella and Sele
The Year of the Cats

The Island Cats said...

Oh Pabs, you are in the places you loved the most!!

We will never forget you!!

The Lee County Clowder said...

Sleep well, Pablo.

Until we meet again, ppuurrrrrrrrr

Forty Paws said...

Oh. That is making our Maw's eyes leak. What a wonderful way to scatter his ashes.

Luf, Us

Ikaika said...

I'm sure Pabs is very happy with your choices. Sending gentle purrs ...

The Furry Kids said...

(((hugs))) and purrs and dawg kisses from The Furry Kids.

The Crew said...

What a touching tribute to your dear boy. We know you miss him terribly.

Furkidsmom said...

Rest well Pablo, you were and are loved.

The Florida Furkids and Angel Sniffie

Sabrina, Sam and Simon said...

Such a touching and heartfelt tribute for Pablo. We have sad leaky eyes because of the heartbreak of you losing him, and also happy leaky eyes because he is now where he loved to be ... that it the most important thing in the world that you could do for him.
Hugs, purrs and headbutts,
Sabrina, Sam and Simon
(and Momma Jan too)

Parker said...

Kate,
What a wonderful way to keep Pablo and his spirit near to you and where he loved to be.
We send our love and we know he is always near you.
(((hugs)))

Jan's Funny Farm said...

A very loving tribute to your Pablo.

Old Kitty said...

This is such a beautiful tribute to angel Pablo. Thank you for sharing. Take care xx

Poppy Q said...

Awww that was a beautiful thing to do for the tabbyman Nick and Kate. We know he'll be purring at the bridge thinking of all of his fave hang outs.

He was lucky to have found himself such good people.

Hugs

Julie and Poppy Q

caspersmom said...

What a beautiful memoir for a very Manly Man Cat. It hurts a mighty now but the sweet Pablo will live on in your hearts. Purrs and Prayers for you Kate and Nicky.

Casper, Cleo, Patches and Mom

Derby, Ducky said...

Oh Miss Kate, you have done well by Pablo. He will from time to time come and touch you. Gotta go, mum is getting leaky eyed.

Forever Foster said...

We are smiling through our tears here. What lovely choices you made. Sending lots of (((hugs)))

Angus Mhor said...

Thank you, Kate, for sharing this Right Time with a Good Cat with us. He was a dear friend to so many and assuredly a blessing in your lives.

Karen Jo said...

You really picked the perfect time. I am sure that Pablo really appreciates being in all his favorite places. It's lovely, if sad.

Keiko said...

We are so sorry to hear of Pablo's passing. This is a beautiful tribute and it is wonderful that Pablo will always be in his favourite spots. We hope that our little Yuji and Pablo are happily chasing butterflies together at the Rainbow Bridge!
Purrrrrs
Keiko, Kenji, Pricilla & Mum Misa (and Angel Yuji)

Everycat said...

These are lovely pictures to remember dear Pablo by. In his favourite places, resting, playing, being Pablo.

Fly free Pablo and keep an eye on your Mum and Dad.

Whicky Wuudler

Kaz's Cats said...

That's a beautiful way for Pablo's favourite people to share his favourite spots with him again...

{{{hugs}}}

Karen (Mum) & Tasha

Teri and the cats of Curlz and Swirlz said...

Thank you for sharing this with us, it felt right, as you said, and seems like we were right there with you, following you around the garden as if Pablo was there with us...well, he is and forever will be and that is comforting...

Mr. Hendrix said...

Just thinking of you guys. Sending purrrrrrrrrrrrs

fional said...

I only just read this Kate. It's lovely.

The Lee County Clowder said...

Hi. Just checking in.

purrrrrsss

Christine and FAZ said...

Every time I see Faz sitting in her daisies now we will remember Pabs. Lovely tribute and hope you are all well and happy. Purrs from Wimbledon

Yoggi said...

Oh, I just saw this. I haven't been blogging or visiting since a long time and to read that Pablo went over the bridge made me very very sad. But I am sure you chose the right time and right places for him. I can hear him cheer to his favorite team from the lovely blue skies. Love Yoggi and family

Mr. Hendrix said...

we are so glad that you stopped by to visit us, and very sorry that it took so long to respond. things have been a little crazy around here. not all bad, just crazy.

we have missed visiting our friends too. we miss you especially. it is nice to know you're still around. purrrrrrrrrrs

we hope you are well and baby Alex is growing strong and happy